7/28/11

tips for women travelers



In our post, Vacationing Without Your Spouse/Partner, we talk about some of the emotional issues that can arise as you plan a vacation following the loss of your spouse/partner.

If you are a woman however, there can be further concerns about traveling on your own. Feeling vulnerable both socially and physically and steep supplemental charges if you don’t want to share a room or cabin, may make you reluctant to venture out on your own.

However, according to a March, 2009 Reuters report, the CEO’s of the two leading international companies reported that six in 10 travelers today are women – up from five in 10 in 2007. In addition, 30% of female travelers today are booking their trips as solo travelers, traveling either alone or with women friends, despite their marital status.

To encourage solo travelers, these top travel companies now offer free or low cost single supplements, a free roommate matching program, a 30-day risk free guarantee at booking and more. Learn more.

Check out Wanderlust and Lipstick (wanderlustandlipstick.com), a wonderfully informative travel site packed with tips, information and tour options especially for women (some include men as well).

Or look into Women Travel Tips, (womentraveltips.com), another site primarily for women travelers.

In our next post, we offer travel options for both men and women as well as vacation adventures you can share with your kids and/or grandkids.

7/21/11

reflections from lost my partner: even more words of wisdom


Here are more sayings from our book, Lost My Partner – What’ll I Do?

1) For now, it’s okay to ask for help from others. Nobody’s strong all the time. Even Superman can be weakened by Krytonite.

2) Confusion and memory loss are normal and temporary symptoms.

3) The first year is full of first everythings.

4) Any new situation will start out being uncomfortable the first time. The next time is always easier.

5) Bereavement is a learning experience about you. You’ll discover new capabilities and strengths you didn’t realize you had.

7/18/11

reflections from lost my partner: 5 words of wisdom



Here are some of the collected ‘words of wisdom’ excerpted from our book, Lost My Partner – What’ll I Do? Revised and Expanded Edition.

Print out and carry with these with you for those moments when you need a little boost of support.


1) It does get better. The pain will soften with time.


2) Every tear helps. The best way to get through mourning is to do the grieving.


3) You will mourn in your own way and in your own time.


4) For now, not normal is normal.


5) Most of your whole world has been turned upside down. Be gentle with yourself.

7/7/11

widowhood way back when: the card carrying widowed





In part 1 and part 2 of our post topic, "When the Visits Stop", we talked about ways to let others know when you need more support and attention once the visiting stops.

For a lighter take on the issue, let's look at how the widowed reached out before the advent of computers and telephones.

According to an article titled “Mourning and Funeral Usages” in an 1886 edition of Harper’s Bazaar Magazine, “When persons who have been in mourning wish to reenter society, they should leave cards on all their friends and acquaintances, as an intimation that they are equal to the paying and receiving of calls. Until this intimation is given, society will not venture to intrude upon the mourner's privacy."

The article goes on to say, "In cases where cards of inquiry have been left, with the words "To inquire" written on the top of the card, these cards should be replied to by cards with "Thanks for kind inquiries" written upon them; but if cards for inquiry had not been left, this form can be omitted."


And you thought you had a lot of paperwork!