4/24/23
7 tips for deciding what to do with your spouse/partner's belongings
How do you know when the time is right to clear out your spouse/partner's belongings?
This important decision has few clear guidelines. Well-meaning family and friends may pressure you to "get rid of" cherished possessions you don't feel ready to let go of. Or you yourself may feel anxious to "get rid of" painful reminders of your loss. But what's the rush? We urge you not to dispose of anything before you first consider these tips:
1. Trust your own instincts about the right time to tackle this difficult process. Take your time and don't rush. The hasty decision you make today may become tomorrow's regret.
2. Ask a trusted family member or friend for help in packing things up and/or making arrangements.
3. Set a realistic timetable for completing this process. Make allowances for how grief is affecting you. Assume there will be times when, despite your best intentions, you won't feel up to dealing with this.
4. Start by first getting rid of items you feel least attached to. Try to imagine what your spouse would want done with their possessions.
5. Don't kid yourself into believing that by getting rid of painful reminders, you can avoid the pain. Allowing yourself to feel the loss is an important part of getting through it and is actually emotionally beneficial in the long run.
6. Hold on to whatever possessions give you comfort right now.
7. Move items you're undecided about to another location, such as rented storage. This allows you some breathing space before making more permanent decisions.
Be sure to give yourself the time you need and trust your instincts about what's best for you.
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