8/31/15

widowhood way back when: widows on rooftops




An interesting architectural feature began in the days of sailing ships.

According to Wikipedia, a widow's walk (or roofwalk) is a railed rooftop platform often with a small enclosed cupola that was often found on 19th century North American houses.

A popular romantic myth holds that the platform was used to observe vessels at sea. The name comes from the wives of mariners who would watch for their spouses' return, often in vain as the ocean took the lives of the mariners, leaving the women as widows.

However, there is little or no evidence that widow's walks were intended or regularly used for this purpose.

Widow's walks are in fact a standard decorative feature of Italianate architecture, which was very popular during the height of the Age of Sail in many North American coastal communities. The widow's walk is a variation of the Italinate cupola . The Italianate cupola, also known as a "belvedere", was an important ornate finish to this style, although it was often high maintenance and prone to leaks.

Beyond their use as viewing platforms, they are frequently built around the chimney of the residence, thus creating an easy access route to the structure. This allows the residents of the home to pour sand down burning chimneys in the event of a chimney fire in the hope of preventing the house from burning down.

We wonder if those 19th century wives had deck chairs and sun block while they were up there.

8/20/15

ruth joins huffpost live panel on overcoming sudden loss


 On 5-5-15, Ruth was interviewed on HuffPost Live as part of a program "How to Overcome Sudden Loss".


Although prompted by the recent death of Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg's husband, Dave Goldberg, who died suddenly following an exercise accident, the subject of sudden loss itself was the focus.   

As a professional psychotherapist who was herself widowed in her mid-40's, Ruth joined the discussion on the challenges of surviving being widowed and coping with the sudden death of a loved one.

Go to HuffPost Live to watch this informative program.

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