taking your first bytes of computer dating; part 1

(Excerpted from our book, Lost My Partner – What’ll I Do?)
Once you’re ready to start dating, you might think about trying one of the many online dating services. While online dating is one approach to meeting people you might not otherwise encounter, it can also be a scary experience the first time out.

Computer dating can be a great way to get back into the dating scene, but it’s usually most helpful as a tool to improve your social skills, rather than as a fast track to true love. Think of the experience as similar to chatting with a stranger at a party or other social gathering.

So keep your expectations realistic and follow these guidelines:

- Dating websites want a profile of you. Think of this as your “ad” and use an attention-grabbling (but not sexual) “headline”. Ask a friend to go over your profile and suggest ways to highlight your talents and qualities. Keep it light and preferably humorous.

- Think about what type of relationship you’re looking for and what interests and personal qualities are most important in a potential date.

- Once you’re ready to meet with someone, arrange to get together for a short period of time for coffee or a light meal. You don’t want to invest more time and/or money in case you don’t hit it off.

In Part 2, we’ll point out 3 important warning signs you should always keep in mind with online dating.

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