recognize your progress!

While you’re in the midst of grieving for your spouse/partner, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and at times defeated by the burdens of new tasks and responsibilities. Caught up in the day to day struggles of surviving your loss, it may feel discouraging to think about how much still lies ahead of you.

It’s important however, to pause and notice how far you’ve already come since the death. Try to remember how you were functioning a week, a month, or months ago.

-  Picture yourself as you were back then.

-  Consider all the little steps you’ve achieved since those earlier times.

-  What challenges have you faced and managed to deal with?

-  What strengths have you discovered within yourself that you never realized before?

Now give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back.

You might also consider recording your progress on a device or in a journal. It’s a good way to keep track of how far you’ve come.


Anonymous said...

What a great post-I could not agree more. When you're sitting in the middle of your grief, progress is hard to recognize and acknowledge. For me, writing and journaling about my journey gave me an opportunity look back at where i was, to see where I am today and look forward to where I want to be in the future. During this time it is especially important to be gentle with yourself and cut yourself a lot of slack. Take a "time out" to acknowledge your successes no matter how small!

Laurie and Ruth said...

Thanks, Deb!