how to ease into those zzz's;part 1

Since your spouse/partner’s death, do you feel exhausted during the day because when you try sleep at night, you:

a) toss and turn all night, unable to shut down your thoughts?

b) fall asleep, only to wake up a few hours later, unable to get back to sleep?

Keep in mind that some disturbances in your normal sleep pattern are to be expected. With all the changes, stresses and mental/physical overload you’re dealing with, it’s no wonder you can’t rest.

With time, these typical symptoms of grief will subside.

In the meantime, remind yourself that everything seems worse at night. Once morning arrives, the problem or memory that kept you tossing and turning will probably seem more manageable.

In our next post, we’ll give you our 7 best ways to make it through those endless nights


Anonymous said...

If only someone would invent a "kill switch" for the mind chatter! It's true that anything that is bothering you seems 10x worse at 2:00am. When I can't sleep, I turn the TV on to a shopping channel. Yes, I have probably bought a few things I didn't need, but it is live TV, so you feel connected to the show hosts. I also get on the computer and and play games or surf the internet. Blogging and online chat rooms are ways to connect in the middle of the night. I also am a world class list-maker-helps me priorize-I always have pen and paper at hand to jot down those random thoughts. It is important to try and get adequate rest-grieving takes a huge amount of energy-but as with everything else about this process, cut yourself some slack. Try to tackle the "big stuff" during the daylight hours.

Laurie and Ruth said...

Sounds like you've found some great ways to feel less alone at night. Glad to know going online helps you. For some people though, it can be too stimulating and delay getting back to sleep.

Speaking of sleep - really like your idea of using pen & paper to write down intrusive thoughts so you can tackle them in the morning.

Thanks again, Deb, for sharing your wonderful thoughts and ideas!