reflections: quotes for getting through the days 2

Here are more quotations we find inspiring:

1) Bereavement is a darkness impenetrable to the imagination of the un-bereaved.
-Iris Murdoch

2) Guilt is perhaps the most painful companion of death.
-Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
3) Dawn is born at midnight.- Carl Jung
4) If the future seems overwhelming, remember that it comes one moment at a time.- Beth Mende Conny
5) They that love beyond the world cannot be separated by it. Death cannot kill what never dies.- William Penn

6) The timing of death, like the ending of a story, gives a changed meaning to what preceded it.
- Mary Catherine Bateson
7) There is no pain so great as the memory of joy in present grief.-Aeschylus

8) Hope is the thing with feathersThat perches in the soul,And sings the tune without the words,and never stops at all.-Emily Dickenson

9) Nothing is so strong as gentleness and nothing is so gentle as real strength.-Ralph W. Sockman

10) No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. The same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. I keep on swallowing. At other times it feels like being mildly drunk, or concussed. There is a sort of invisible blanket between the world and me. I find it hard to take in what anyone says. Or perhaps, hard to want to take it in.
- C. S. Lewis


Anonymous said...

I am 56 years old. My 20 year old son died in a car accident 11 years ago. On 1-31-18 my wife of 32 years died suddenly from a heart attack. I am not the same person I was I feel so lost and hopeless. I am unable to deal with things like normal people. No one knows how I struggle, I have become very adept at hiding this from everyone.

Laurie & Ruth said...

It's understandable and normal that having experienced two unexpected deaths you feel the way you do. Be prepared for a reaction on the one year anniversary of your wife's death by acknowledging your loss to others you trust (read our post re anniversary reactions). By "hiding" your struggle, which many men are trained to do, you only delay and complicate your bereavement processes. This can result in "sneak attacks" of grief when such feelings are least expected. Because any sudden death can leave survivors struggling with so many issues, we strongly suggest you seek professional support with a grief specialist. This can provide a safe place to face and understand your feelings. Once you move past isolating yourself from the support of others, the pain will soften.