(Excerpted from our book, Lost My Partner – What’ll I Do?)
Returning to a job after a spouse’s death is a step that tends to be anticipated with eagerness, dread, or both, at different times.
The workplace can seem like a familiar well-ordered refuge where you find many hours of distraction away from your pain.
On the other hand, it can represent the ordeal of work pressures, coworkers’ reactions, and a boss’s unrealistic expectations.
Here are some ways to make it through a work day while you’re grieving:
- While your private world has been drastically changed, your workplace has gone along in its usual way. You may, therefore, initially feel out of sync with the rest of your coworkers.
- Coworkers will look to you for their cues. Others usually feel awkward about expressing feelings or knowing the “right thing” to say. How you respond to the first expressions of sympathy will convey a message to other coworkers about how and if you want to discuss the loss. Some possible responses include: “Thank you. It’s difficult to talk right now – maybe later.” Or “I appreciate your concern.” Remember, the choice is yours.
- Some coworkers may not mention the loss. This can feel hurtful and even insulting. Try to keep in mind that people are often afraid of “reminding” or upsetting a grieving person. Expressing sadness can seem especially threatening in a work setting, where personal distress is supposed to take a back seat to the demands of business.
In Part 2, learn tips for dealing with reactions of your own that may crop up at work
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