Ever had a divorced person say to you, “I know just how you feel. When my marriage broke up, it felt just like a death had happened.”?
Although usually well-meaning, these sorts of remarks can really tick you off!
The assumption that surviving divorce and death present similar traumas is certainly understandable. The “death” of a marriage can bring about intense emotional pain and grief. Indeed, a mourning process usually occurs in many divorces in which each partner grieves for a multitude of losses, from emotional to financial.
However, what some people have trouble understanding is the fact that while divorce, however painful, is basically a choice, death is not.
In a divorce situation, you may wish your ex-spouse was no longer around, but he or she is, in reality, somewhere out there. Still alive.
Death, as we say, is final.
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