surviving space-outs; part 2

In our previous post, we looked at the frustrating, but normal symptoms of forgetfulness and disorientation that follow experiencing the death of a spouse/partner.

Here are 7 useful tips for dealing with these symptoms:

1) Give yourself permission to not be your usual self for the time being.

2) If you find you’ve lost track of something, stop, take three deep breaths and mentally (or physically) retrace your steps.

3) Write down or note on your smartphone anything you need to remember, especially appointments, as soon as possible.

4) Set up various “information centers” in highly visible places, such as your computer or the refrigerator, where you can place reminders to yourself.

5) Put reminders or important information on color-coded sticky notes that you leave on your information centers. Remove them when each task is completed.

6) Keep extra sets of keys at your information centers.

7) When first scheduling an appointment, request a telephone or electronic reminder.

Keep in mind that these symptoms are temporary and even the most conscientious people become forget and disoriented after suffering a major loss.

So be patient with yourself.

And give it time.


Anonymous said...

Losing things-expecially my keys and forgetting was and still is a huge issue for me. I write myself notes, makes lists, alerts and reminders on my cell phone and computer. But the most important thing is SLOW DOWN and take time to be particularly mindful of what you are doing. I usually can multitask at warp speed quite efficiently, but now I often forget what I want to ask my boss by the time I was from my desk to hers. Don't panic-usually I find or remember what I have temporarily lost or forgotten when I take a step back and don't try so hard.

Laurie and Ruth said...

Thanks for your helpful comment, Deb.

Your advice to slow down and be mindful about what you're trying to do is especially good!